I do have a post...I do, I do...Excuse me while I make a reference to "SATC"...There's an episode where Miranda and Carrie get into a huge fight in the middle of a thrift store because Miranda is tired of wiping Carrie's tears after she breaks up with a guy who is horrible for her...yet that she still keeps going back to. I realized at that moment that Carrie Bradshaw annoys me because she's not strong enough to resist putting herself in a position that has proved to be detrimental to her emotional well-being. However, she comes off as strong, smart, and independent...Is she a poser?

The real question is...Am I poser? I'm judging a fictional character for her weakenesses when I do exactly the same thing! I might not have a Mr. Wrong in my life, but I do have people in my life that are not good for my emotional well-being...yet I don't bother to draw lines or keep them a safe distance away to where I am not affected by them. I don't believe in cutting people out of your life, but I do believe that people are constantly evolving and changing. So in order to have a successful relationship with someone, you have to work around the change and evolution.
For example, I've had a friend since childhood. Since I was a little bit older than her, I matured before she did. She was wrapped up in the "drama" that most 20-somethings get involved in while I was in search of a drama-free existence as a 30-something. She felt that my drawing an "emotional" line of separation was me pushing her out of my life...but it wasn't so. I was just merely giving myself space in order to prevent suffocation. Now, 4 years later, our relationship is great!! When we get together, we appreciate our time together, we reflect on the old days, have great conversations, and get along with out any drama. We needed that space and time in order to be functional friends.

With some people, it's not as easy to draw that line of separation. They haven't quite reached that level of emotional suffocation...but, I find myself feeling continuously sad because of their actions. Is there really a need for that? Why do I keep going back for more? I think when you better understand yourself and your "needs" in a relationship...and actually have the strenghth to stand up for yourself and stop getting emotionally trampled...you are able to draw lines that are sometimes very necessary. Until then...you somehow feel compelled to live by the "BFF rule" that was established in your mind some time between junior high and high school.